I have a number of friends who do not have kids and do not
intend to change that, ever. And guess
what. That is OK. Not everyone is
parenting material. Now call me crazy if
you must, but I think it is better to not be a parent than to be a bad
parent. If you don’t want to be a parent,
then for the love of your non existent kids, don’t have any! No one wants to feel unwanted, and to feel
like your parents don’t want you would hurt most profoundly. Don’t do that to any child.
That said maybe you are a “No Kidder” who is friends with someone
who is now with kid. Does this mean you
can no longer be friends? No. Will
things change? Yes!
In the same way you would not want to be pressured or criticized
for choosing not to procreate, giving your friends flack for adding to their household
is equally off-putting.
“[But] I don’t care about your baby, and I’m sick of it
filling up my news feed”
That’s ok. You don’t
have to follow all of your friends on facebook, that said unfriending someone
for having a baby can come off as hurtful, especially if your friend is
experiencing postpartum-depression (a malady
that they are not likely to fess up to right away if at all). But you still don’t want the baby pictures,
that’s ok. Go to your baby having friend’s
find the follow button an click that down to unfollow. Tada!
Friendship saved and unwanted
baby clutter is gone.
But why is the new parent posting all this baby stuff?
Believe it or not, it’s by request! Furthermore, your baby
having friend has likely had it communicated to them by countless baby
enthusiastic friends and family to keep the baby pictures coming. (No such
thing as too many baby pictures I’ve been told by a few)
Now how does a “No Kidder” deal with a kid having friend?
Now how do you deal with it when any friend has found a new: hobby
/ TV show / interest, which you have no interest in? Say that’s nice and redirect the conversation
to something you both can enjoy. :)
Believe it or not new parents still like the things they
used to like, even if their priorities have shifted. As a mom I get plenty of baby related talk
from my local mother’s club, and I would be more than happy to discuss some topic more relevant to you with you.
Not here though, here is my mommy blog. ;)
Basically you don't baby bash and I will not baby push. Deal?
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