“No Kidding”

I have a number of friends who do not have kids and do not intend to change that, ever.  And guess what. That is OK.  Not everyone is parenting material.  Now call me crazy if you must, but I think it is better to not be a parent than to be a bad parent.  If you don’t want to be a parent, then for the love of your non existent kids, don’t have any!  No one wants to feel unwanted, and to feel like your parents don’t want you would hurt most profoundly.  Don’t do that to any child.

That said maybe you are a “No Kidder” who is friends with someone who is now with kid.  Does this mean you can no longer be friends? No.   Will things change? Yes!

In the same way you would not want to be pressured or criticized for choosing not to procreate, giving your friends flack for adding to their household is equally off-putting.

“[But] I don’t care about your baby, and I’m sick of it filling up my news feed”

That’s ok.  You don’t have to follow all of your friends on facebook, that said unfriending someone for having a baby can come off as hurtful, especially if your friend is experiencing postpartum-depression  (a malady that they are not likely to fess up to right away if at all).  But you still don’t want the baby pictures, that’s ok. Go to your baby having friend’s  find the follow button an click that down to unfollow.  Tada!  Friendship saved and  unwanted baby clutter is gone.

But why is the new parent posting all this baby stuff?

Believe it or not, it’s by request! Furthermore, your baby having friend has likely had it communicated to them by countless baby enthusiastic friends and family to keep the baby pictures coming. (No such thing as too many baby pictures I’ve been told by a few)

Now how does a “No Kidder” deal with a kid having friend?

Now how do you deal with it when any friend has found a new: hobby / TV show / interest, which you have no interest in?  Say that’s nice and redirect the conversation to something you both can enjoy.  :)

Believe it or not new parents still like the things they used to like, even if their priorities have shifted.  As a mom I get plenty of baby related talk from my local mother’s club, and I would be more than happy to discuss some topic more relevant to you with you.

Not here though, here is my mommy blog.  ;)

Basically you don't baby bash and I will not baby push. Deal?